Jeremy is telling me this from a hospital bed, six stories above Seattle. No matter the theme, the result is the same: a lot of gay men, wearing very little clothing. But what has received far less attention is the basic ethical rules of the road that have governed journalism for decades.
We have to recognize that as we fight for better laws and better environments—and as we figure out how to be better to each other. It is better to try to answer than to respond with silence or evade the question. Some reactions are more surprising.
But just as labels can reassure, they can also confine or confuse, or seem like a restriction to those terrified of being defined by it for ever. On top of this, Stephen Fry has recently revealed his engagement to partner Elliot Spencer. Some say our city is becoming less gay.
Generally speaking, I'm an activist, educator, and artist who is employed by a collective of bosses to create for global justice. I barely knew at that point.
Inside, outside, wherever you go. Because I don't. Growing up gay, it seems, is bad for you in many of the same ways as growing up in extreme poverty. Ultimately, both online and IRL, camp and femme-shaming is a nuanced but deeply ingrained strain of internalized homophobia.
When a married man comes out later in life, positive reactions can be heartening. But that relief is often accompanied by anger. So what are we supposed to do about it? None of this is new, of course.